Has our generation lost the art of listening?
VIEW: CALVIN ROBERTS
These days people are engrossed in their electronic gadgets so much that they to forget the existence of fellow human-beings. The results are not only obvious in education, business, society and politics, but also in the very fabric of our individual lives. The introduction of technology has led to the decrease of human communication. Our generation is caught up in their own digital lives that no one has the time and care to listen to each other. This aspect can be seen in every event. We don’t listen to parents, teachers and even our own peers.
However, we can’t put all the blame on technology, another reason being our attention span decreasing and our losing interest in what others are talking about. For example, the other day, in our class, we were discussing a very sensitive topic, religion. During the discussion, a student misheard the other saying that a Holy Book could be fake and all the students following that religion pounced on him. This can be an instance where we say that our generation has lost the art of listening.
If our generation has not lost the art of listening, then why are there centres where listening skills are being taught? Indeed today, listening has become a lost art. When we listen to someone speaking, we are slowing down our brain speed drastically in order to keep up with the speed of the person talking. This leaves our brain with a lot of space to think, so in order to listen better, we need to use our thinking time more efficiently.
A question which one might ask is “how does our generation listen to music and their favourite movies without being distracted?” Some even memorize the lyrics of songs and the lines of a movie, but if asked what the lecturer spoke in college, they would say they don’t remember. Sometimes even though the class is silent, when the lecturer asks a question, they retort by saying they “didn’t hear what the question was.” From this, we come to a conclusion that it is not that they didn’t hear but they chose not to hear. Our generation chooses what they want to hear and what they don’t want to hear.
In conclusion, I want to use a term often used in the Holy Bible regarding our generation.
They have eyes, but they don’t see. They have ears, but they don’t hear.
- Mark8:18
COUNTERVIEW- ATUL MATHEW
“Genuine listening means suspending memory, desire, and judgment and, for a moment at least, existing for the other person.”
- The lost Art of listening.
- The lost Art of listening.
Listening like any other skill cannot be developed without practice. Yes, it can be lost if people don’t try and listen on a regular basis, but then it can be regained just as easily. The good listeners focus on what they’re listening to. They pause to think about what they have heard before responding accordingly if necessary. They ask questions because they want to know more on what they heard and not just for the sake of extending the conversation or to show interest. It is an art. You have got to give attention to what you listen. It would be easy to say listening is something that anybody can do at any time. But even listening requires you to be alert.
Now, Many would argue saying in the present generation, Listening is somewhat of a lost art. They might even say in world where self-interest precedes everything else, where intolerance has become an acceptable value. That the art of listening is fast fading into oblivion. But Tema Frank, A best-selling author, once said that she isn’t convinced that our ability to listen is any worse than it has been in the past. So summing it all down to our generation doesn’t seem all that fair, does it?
Am I saying our generation is good at listening? No, that would be completely wrong. But it’ll be equally wrong to say we have lost the art of it. There’s Talking and then there’s Listening which are two sides of the same coin. Both form an integral part in the process of communication. Dalai Lama said “When you talk, you only repeat what you know. But when you listen, you learn something new.” And nobody can deny our generation hasn’t been learning anything new. In fact research has shown that our generation has taken more into learning, understanding and acquiring more knowledge than the previous generations, and that can only be achieved by listening, taking in and understanding the information and applying the knowledge you received into anything you’re interested in.
It’s a common misconception that we, our generation, stopped listening because of any gadget that sucks our consciousness right into it, leaving the outside world oblivious. Isn’t it also a very critical thing to say that our Know-it-all Ego doesn’t allow us to listen to anything anyone says? We do listen. We do think it over in our heads. Maybe we didn’t want to say anything because of a difference in opinion. Or yes, there would’ve been a few who actually hadn’t listened. Does that mean our whole generation has to be criticized over what the minority did? But that’s just what the society does, and that is what we have to live with, apparently.